Thursday, October 15, 2015
31 Days of Grief: Day 15 (Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day)
Yesterday I picked up my son's ashes from the funeral home.
That sentence is all sorts of wrong.
Today I talked with the genetic counselor at my doctor's office about the findings of my baby's autopsy.
Cool. Just what I like to do on a nice Thursday afternoon.
Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. One in four women experience these losses. One in four, twenty-five percent. It's a pretty staggering statistic, if you ask me.
With 25% of women affected by pregnancy and infant loss, you never know what the woman standing right next to you has gone through.
The lady that walked absentmindedly in front of your car on her way into the grocery store? She may have buried her baby the day before.
The woman sitting idly at a green light? She may be trying to process the fact that the little life she is carrying will not be coming home with her.
The one at the library who seems to be staring at your child? She might have lost a baby who would be exactly the age of your little one, and she's trying so hard to imagine what they might have been like.
Losing babies, losing these precious lives, hurts. It hurts to do painful things like pick out caskets and cremation urns or have invasive surgeries when all you really wanted was to worry about carseat installation and amazon reviews on pack and plays. One in four women has these experiences.
Today, please be aware that there are women out there hurting because they've lost something very precious. And please remember those precious lives lost because they were alive and loved and wanted and they mattered. Very, very much.