Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Parenting Theme, part II

I just wanted to add one thought to my post from yesterday, a thought on discipline.  Like all aspects of the Christian life, disciplining children should be done with discretion and wisdom.  I once overheard a wise woman say she uses the 4 D's to help her discern what behaviors need to be seriously addressed: was the child in danger, disobedient, disrespectful, or dishonest.  I think that's a pretty good list.  

Now, again, wisdom and discretion are key.  Some little people can disguise these 4 D's to look pretty sweet and innocent when in fact, they are not.  And likewise, a behavior can seem dishonest when maybe you just misunderstood the situation.  I have never prayed James 1:5 more earnestly than when parenting Micah:

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives to all men liberally and without reproach.  

Amen!  Jesus please help me to be a good and discerning mother who addresses the right things and overlooks the unnecessary things.  And besides, who wants to discipline this face more than absolutely necessary ;) ?


  1. I like the 4D's, I'm gonna remember that...goes along/reminds me of the 3 B's we use around here - (broken) bones, bleeding or breathing (lack of). The only acceptable reasons for interrupting me when they are asked not to (phone call, in the shower, naptime, etc). If it doesn't fit in the 3B's it can WAIT. AMEN!! Haha. You never know what can constitute a complete "emergency" and meltdown until you have a 4 year old that requires batteries for their car - *rolling eyes...*

  2. Haha! You know, I bet we can go all the way down the alphabet and make up parenting rules ... the 3 A's, hmmm ...

  3. such a sweet face... I know I'd struggle to discipline him! ;)

  4. And James Dobson reminds us that we shouldn't discipline for mistakes or for acting inappropriately due to fear.